Hey love. I think first and foremost, you need to realize that you are far from alone. Just because women are naturally less visual than men does not mean we are not visual at all, because we are, to an extent. And we still have a sex drive, we still lust, we still struggle. All of us. You and I both.
Keeping that in the front of your mind, know that telling yourself over and over, “don’t look at porn. don’t look at porn,” isn’t going to break the habit. Your mind is still focused on porn. Breakthrough lies in a shift in your focus. The more you focus on Christ, and on other things, the more that His love will compel you to turn away from it. Your desires will change.
But it’s not easy to just change your focus. You’ll need help. Seek it. Find accountability. Put locks on your computer. Request that someone you trust asks you everyday.
All of these things won’t work unless you truly desire to change. You may still want to follow those lustful feelings but if you want that to change, you will. Nothing is holding you back from that, you are free and you are capable. Your ability for pure thoughts has already been won for you, it’s just a matter of setting yourself up to walk in it.